Gratitude: When Your Little Blessings Lead to Bigger Ones

“What Is Going Right in Your Life Now?” – MO

My Divine Gems, I hope you are all well. I know it has been some time since my last post, but I didn’t want to let another month pass without leaving some Gems for you. I hope July and August were kind to you. My July was a bit quiet and reflective as I celebrated another year of life, and for that, I am grateful. 

To be honest, I was a bit hesitant to write the next blog entry because I didn’t know what to say or how to connect. Call it a minor case of writer’s block or self-doubt, but sometimes I become hesitant about my path. Yet, I also remember why I’m on my path and keep moving forward. A few years ago, I wasn’t in a position to care about my writing, let alone have the option to write. I feel blessed, I am grateful. 

You know, pessimism is the thief of joy and lasting happiness. The adversity you endure on your journey can easily make you lose sight of the most meaningful things in life, making it difficult to connect with yourself or your journey. I’ve been there. That’s why I say, regardless of how annoying you may think it sounds, the fastest way to any blessing in life is through gratefulness for where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going. 

As we approach the end of August, I want to discuss a major lesson I’ve learned throughout my life, especially during these past few months.  

Little Blessings  

“Little blessings are the moments you may deem insignificant because, in your reality, they are valuable but simultaneously aren’t as valuable.”

What seems insignificant to you may be the joy someone else prays for. 

When I went through some difficult moments in my life, I used to get annoyed hearing phrases like, “Be grateful for what you have.” I simply didn’t want to hear it. It felt dismissive, like my experiences didn’t matter at that moment. But through a change in perspective, I realized that my struggles are just as significant as the blessings attached to them. 

If you are unable to recognize the blessing in the little moments in your life, you won’t be able to recognize the bigger blessings, even when it’s right in front of you. I always live my life as though there are lessons to be learned in everything I do, and when you adapt this mentality to your journey, it becomes more meaningful. You realize that your “little blessings” are just as important, even when they don’t feel like it. 

When you look at the current state of the world, you can have every reason to feel upset about life, and rightfully so. Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned; it is unfair, and it isn’t okay. What is also not okay is wallowing in that unfairness because you subconsciously accept the opportunity to watch your life pass you by. 

When you choose to make the most out of your life, you’ll be amazed at what you can create. 

When life gets heavy and you feel the unfairness of it all, ask yourself, “What is going right in my life right now?” No matter how small it feels to you, make a list and add something new to it every single day. 

When I acknowledge what seem like insignificant moments in my life, it takes away the idea of what my life “should be” and creates the opportunity to focus on my reality rather than escaping because of worry and doubt. 

Asking yourself what is going right also makes you realize that sometimes things aren’t as bad as they feel. You will have pleasant and unpleasant days, but it is up to you to make the most of them. Yes, it seems like a demanding responsibility, but when you are unable to run away from your unpleasant days, you challenge yourself to grow through it.  

Big Blessings 

“Big blessings are often the grand desires you believe will change the trajectory of your life. While that may be true, they can often go unrecognized because you haven’t learned how to properly identify and appreciate them.” 

In a perfect world, everything in life is sorted out, no worries, no cares, everything is amazing. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world, and no one, no matter how it appears, has a perfect life. How many times have you logged into social media and discovered that someone else’s life was an illusion? It happens every day. Yet, you find yourself comparing your life to how you think it should appear. 

In my book, Jealous Babe, I talk about how dangerous comparisons are and how they can influence jealousy and envy. Your big blessings are most likely connected to the little blessings you continuously choose to ignore. When you don’t connect to them, you risk the chance of missing an amazing experience because it isn’t presented the way you imagined it would be. 

From my observation, I believe most people allow amazing opportunities to slip away because they fail to identify the value of a blessing. I’ve learned that those small moments create opportunities for bigger blessings to manifest. You may not recognize them in that moment, but they always do. 

Speaking words like, “My life is so hard,” “Why do others get blessed and I don’t?” “Life is not fair,” or “Bad things are always happening to me,” little by little, you create your reality. When you speak negatively to yourself or about your experiences, you shouldn’t be surprised when that becomes your actual reality. 

I mean, you said it, right? 

I am not encouraging toxic positivity. I am a firm believer in always acknowledging and honoring yourself and your emotions; however, be willing to move past them once they have been felt. 

“Choose Gratitude.”

Sadness makes you appreciate joy. 

Lack makes you appreciate abundance. 

Loss makes you appreciate gain. 

Weakness makes you appreciate strength. 

Look at it this way: Be grateful for the life you live, regardless of your current circumstances. I know it can be difficult to do but beauty is all around you, even when you choose not to see it, it will always be there. 

Gems, just in case no one told you today, I think you are beautiful, and I love you! 

With Love, 

MO