When Moving Forward Feels Difficult

Happy October, Happy Fall! I hope your September treated you kindly. Fall has always been my favorite season; it never fails to remind me of divine transformation, groundedness, and the release of what no longer serves. I’ve always loved how it showcases the beauty of letting go to embrace the next cycle of life. The beautiful colored leaves, the fresh smell of newness in the air- or is it fall fashion? The best! I could go on and on for my love for this new season, but I will redirect. Gems, have you ever felt like your transformation was long, difficult, or just unbearable to sustain? In today’s blog post, I want to share reminders for when the phrase “Keep Moving Forward” seems too difficult to bear. If you think moving forward and building or rebuilding your life seems impossible to do, you might want to read this.

Here are my thoughts based on my experience and what I would tell myself or anyone reading who feels they have reached their breaking point. My lovely gems, before you throw in the towel, hear me out.

Moving Forward is Hard

You know, “keep moving forward” isn’t a phrase I utilize just because it sounds pretty, I mean sure it’s motivational and affirming but actually moving forward in the mist of adversity, discouragement or even self-doubt actually sucks. Resilience is truly easier said than done. Moving your life ahead takes courage, willingness, and determination; it takes strength like you never experienced before and sometimes, those aren’t things given to you by others. I mean how many times have you indulged in motivational clips, and the speaker passionately encourages you to pull yourself up by your boot’s straps in the mist of your struggles? It feels encouraging, motivational or even inspiring in the moment but with enough time that little glimpse of hope dwindles and you’re back to feeling doubtful again. Motivational words are encouraging and helpful under the right circumstances, but sometimes you will need more. Your life will bring challenges, but you make the choices to continue your journey or adhere to those challenges. Moving forward is hard, but it is necessary to live a fruitful life. Building an innate connection to yourself, understanding your needs and wants, accepting what it takes to get there, and knowing that you are worth what comes with ever struggle and challenge with pushes you closer to your desires. Moving forward is hard, but from my experiences I can tell you it is worth it.

Your Life Will Feel Slow, It Is Not

Just because your life feels slow doesn’t actually mean that it is. It only ‘feels’ that way because you’ve assumed that things should move with the quickness of light on your terms. Unfortunately, this is not how life works. Like the fall season, life moves in cycles and some seasons will feel extremely slower than others. I’ve noticed that there’s this obsession with wanting to experience life with the absolute rush of it all. Whatever happened to you embracing the moment? Things aren’t always going to go the way that you’ve planned. Sometimes things never go the way you plan, but that’s the beauty of life. You make a new plan and try something new until you discover what works. To the gem that’s reading this, you might be in a season in your life where it seems like you’re watching life pass you by. You might feel behind in your life and the image of everyone else living may break your heart for a moment not necessarily out of jealousy or envy as stated in my book Jealous Babe, but with the idea that you, perhaps, may have done something wrong along your journey. What if I told you, you were exactly when you needed to be at this moment in your life? Patience is a virtue and sometimes slowing down is pivotal even in the way we least expect it. Your time for movement will come, but if there’s one thing I can tell you from my experience on my path, movement doesn’t meet you when you’ve abandoned yourself. Your day will feel longer and slower when you stop but purposeful and promising when you learn to let go and embrace your season.

You Are a Powerful Alchemist

Have you ever looked back on a moment in your life and thought to yourself “how did I survive through that”? I feel like we all have that moment where we’re unable to imagine pulling through, but dispute all; we somehow did. You are an alchemist. In the personal growth and wellness space, an alchemist is a person described to transform a situation, usually a negative one into a much favorable and positive outcome through their own strength and growth. One way your negative experiences can manipulate you into doubting your path is by convincing you that you lack. You are abundant in every possible way even when your desired state of abundance is slow to martialize into your physical reality.

If I wanted a boat and I tell myself I would never have one, then I have successfully created a reality without a boat.

If I wanted a boat and I tell myself I would get one even though I was unaware of how to obtain it, had the internal belief that someday I would own one, and took the necessary steps to find out how to obtain one, then I have successfully created a reality with me and my boat, even if it has not yet materialized into my current reality.

Gems, remember that your dedication, mindset and action pull you closer to that timeline despite your current circumstances. Think of the last thing you wanted then break down the steps you took to materialize that into your life. Seeing isn’t always believing, sometimes knowing that your outcome is already there is enough.

Your Path Belongs to You and No One Else

The pressure to conform and meet social expectations will encourage you to live your life for the entertainment of others. One of the things I have always reminded myself of was that my timeline belonged to me and no one else. Life does not come with a manual; you are placed here to live and walk your individual path the best way you know. I mean sure you learn from the experiences of those around you, but your path is unique and belongs to you. It is easy to get discouraged when your life doesn’t align with the timeline of those around you, but when you spend your life trying to force an outcome, you don’t really enjoy the experience of living your life. Your path is different; it was always meant to be. Be grateful that you have a path, appreciate the little blessing in your life while you wait for the bigger once that are on the way.

I will leave you all with this Gem:

In all that you do remember to have faith that things will turn around for the better. Sometimes you are way closer than you think and extremely stronger than you feel in your challenges. Like those previous moments in your life, someday you will look back and express to yourself “I can’t believe I was able to overcome that moment”.

My lovely Gems, just in case no one told you today, I think you are beautiful, and I love you!

With Love,

MO