You’re Just Too Emotional

“Remember that you cannot judge the moral value of any action by how we feel. Our feelings are unreliable and cannot be trusted to convey truth.”

– Joyce Meyer 

Lord, have mercy!  So I was reading a little article about a woman who assaulted her college football player boyfriend simply because he was not giving her wasn’t enough attention.

Ladies, is it that serious or are we going to play double standers here?

Before I get into this let me state that I believe that domestic violence is unacceptable, whether it is a male or a female. It is not okay to put your hand on another people.

I don’t know how accurate this story is but I’ll use this situation as an example because I have a few things to say. Let me give my quick insight on what I think about people being controlled by their emotions.

So the story is that Mary Gaspar (football players’ girlfriend) poured boiling water on her boyfriend, Jonnu Smith because she was not receiving the attention she claims she deserves.  Allegedly, the athlete is suffering from severe burns that have taken him out for the rest of the season.

Now Look, I know Madea said it was okay for Lisa to pour hot grit on her soon to be husband when he has been beating on her, BUT in Lisa’s case, her husband had in fact been beating on her. We’re going to call that self-defense. If your partner had been beating you, then you go ahead and fight for your life.

Few questions:

Is it okay to pour boiling water on your man/woman because they are not giving you what you want?

Is it okay to for your man/women to pour boiling water on you because you are not giving them the attention they want? Okay!

Sometimes it seems like in today’s culture If a man hit a woman, it is an abuse. If a women hit a man, she was just “emotional”.

I’m not saying that is what’s happening here. Again, I don’t know the full story. This post is not to attack anyone. Call it what you want but, sometimes our emotions are just too loud. Let me explain.

So allegedly, Mary (girlfriend) was 5 months pregnant. I understand that when we as women are pregnant our bodies are changing, our hormones are constantly raising and falling. I figure at five months you have some sort control over this? I don’t know. I’ve never been pregnant before but what I do know is that, pregnant or not, we should not be run by our emotions.

When we become a puppet for our emotions, then we will lose control of ourselves. When we lose control of ourselves, it is pretty much downhill from there. This statement applies to both men and women.

I remember reading Joyce Meyer book Joyce Meyer, Living Beyond Your Feeling: Controlling Emotions So They Don’t Control You, a few years ago. In this book, she states to “Remember that you cannot judge the moral value of any action by how we feel. Our feelings are unreliable and cannot be trusted to convey truth”. She pretty much states that it is wise to not wait to find out how you feel before you take action.

That book helped me in so many ways. Take it for someone that had been controlled by her emotions for many years, nothing good comes of it. Nothing but regret and disappointment.

As a woman, it is already bad enough that were sometimes looked down on and can’t be taken seriously because we’re to “emotional”. I am not asking that we do not feel. We are human, we are meant to feel and have emotions. I am asking that to not wait to find out how you feel in order to do what is necessary and right.

Things like going into work because you know that you have responsibilities to handle but if you choose not to because you simply did not feel it, you will eventually suffer the consequences.

Or maybe things like pouring hot boiling water on your partner because you were stressed or maybe you were angry that they cheated on you.

Think of the last time you were run by your emotions, now remember the outcome of the situation. In most cases, they are usually negative outcomes.

Have Control of Your Emotions!

It can keep you out of jail or better yet it can save your life. I understand that it may be difficult for some, especially when it is out of the norm but it can be done. Begin now to work on yourself.

You what to be strong enough to walk away when you become angry and lose control

You what to be strong enough to take some time and cool off then talk about your feeling later because had you spoken when you were flustered, you would have said or done some things you may regret.

If your partner isn’t treating you the way that you deserve and you have voiced your concerns and nothing has being done about it, find the courage to walk away.

If you chose to stay with someone who does not show love, you’ll get just that, No love.

Again, this message is not to point fingers but to advice that we handle our emotions with care and to learn not to be managed by them. We never know who we may hurt when being controlled by our feelings. Handle them with care before they handle you.

With love,

MO