The Difficulty of Letting Go

“Letting go is hard to do but you owe it to yourself because you are worthy of healing” – MO

I once wrote about the art of letting go and in that post, I discussed the beauty in letting go of hurt when it overshadows love. Looking back I realized that I did not speak much about the difficulty of letting go. We don’t talk about the challenges we face when we decide to let go of the things that hurt us. Speaking from experience I can say that releasing, forgiving or moving on is much easier said than done. We spend so many years of our lives with pain and hurt from our past and sometimes those traumatic experiences unintentionally shape us into the individual that we are today. Our pain somewhat becomes our identity. Weirdly, being angry, hurt, or having a negative attachment from our past drives us. It gives us a sense of purpose and a reason to validate our feelings and actions. Holding onto baggage removes accountability from SELF and places it onto the person or event that implemented the hurt.

Eventually, when we make the conscious decision to let go of pain, anger, resentment or whatever that is holding us back, we recognize that we are left with the two things that we run from the most; Our true self and our emotions. You being to understand that letting go and releasing negative attachment is not merely about forgiving others, it is also the act of forgiving ourselves.

Forgive yourself for…
-Not knowing how to release the hurt
-Staying angry
-Hurting people (because hurt people, hurt people)
-Feeling unworthy
-The countless other things that you were unaware of…

“When we let go of things that no longer serve us, we begin to experience life differently” – MO

Letting go is Hard.
Letting go is Scary.
Letting go is Necessary.
Letting go is a part of the healing process that cannot be overlooked.

When we learn to work through our traumas by making the decision to release, we are also deciding to unlearn everything that we unintentionally taught ourselves over the years. This is usually the difficult part for most. We begin to change the version of SELF we’ve created by changing our behavior and way of thinking. When we step into healing the perception of the way we view ourselves and others begins to shift. We let go of the “safe self” that we have created and step into our true vulnerable free self.

Deciding to release and step into healing comes with a lot of uncertainties but it is also important to remember that it is a process without step by step institutions. With that being said I continue to express the importance of not missing out on your happiness by holding onto pride, pain, anger or resentment. Letting go is hard but you owe it to yourself because you are worthy of healing.

With Great Love,

MO

Writer’s Note: You are responsible for healing yourself. The person, place or situation that hurt you is not obligated to heal you.