Self Love, Self Worth

How much do you think that you are worth?

I was self-reflecting and I thought about how far I had come in life and I asked myself a question I was unsure of how to answer a few years ago. We live in a world where we are constantly surrounded by negativity, whether in the media or outside our front door. It is important to ask ourselves these questions? The world has its ways of knocking us off our feet, that is why it is important to stand firm. Strength starts with the mind. It doesn’t matter how physically strong a person it, without mental strength the battle will be lost before it has begun.

This is why I ask the self worth question because, as clique as it may sound, IT STARTS WITH YOU. Knowing our values and self-worth has a massive impact in our lives. It impacts the people in our lives, the jobs we go after, the people we let into our hearts, and the way we let people treat us. You have to know who you are and LOVE who you are. If we are unable to love ourselves, no one else will. Choosing to work on the self and placing personal happiness  before others does not make a person bad. In most cases being self-full is mistaken for being selfish.

I am not encouraging people to not love, I would never do that. It is wise to genuinely love but when “love” diverse us from ourselves and who we are, we forget the importance of the true meaning of love. God created us in his image and likeness. Once we constantly put others and their needs before ourselves, that behavior devalues the position we claim to place God in our lives.

Most people give and give and expect people to do the same in return because, well,… it is only fair, Right? Truth is, life is sometimes not fair. We expect people to love us because we have continuously presented ourselves each time a persons happiness is in jeopardy. We hope that someday they will eventually recognize our effort and love us the way we have loved them.

Love yourself enough to fill your own self with love, as you share the love you have with others. Image an overflowing cup that has created a big puddle of water. Now image quenching the thirst of those who claimed to need water. You give and you give and all of a sudden, your cup is empty. You’ve given so much that you’ve forgotten that you needed your own water too. What sometimes happens in life is that we forget how our cups were filled in the first place. We start searching for water from other cups, other rivers, other oceans, or other stream.  We spend the most past of our lives trying to refill our cup and we fail to realize that our cup will never be filled by other people. Our cup will be full by the love that we received from God, the love we have accepted for our lives. When our cup overflows with love and kindness, you share that goodness with the world as with ourselves. Do not forget yourself.

Most of us do not feel worthy because people have not told us we are worthy.  Do not hope to receive affirmation from others to feel worthy or loved.  At some point you realize that you are worth more because God’s love is beyond  any expectations, it is beyond anything that I’ve ever known.

My message is not to stop loving others. My message is to stop forgetting yourself while trying to love another. It is okay to love yourself . It is okay to say that:

I am worth more than inconsistently

I am worth more than betrayal

I am worth more than selfishness

I am worth more than an unhappy Job

I am worth more than disrespect

I am worth more than {insert issues}……

I am worth more, I deserve better, and I will get better.

How much am I worth?

I am priceless. There is no one on the earth that is identical to who I am. I am one of a kind and I love myself to the moon and back. I deserve the very best things that this life has to offer and I will work hard till I achieve my goals and dreams. I will keep speaking my life into existence, I will keep envisioning, and I will keep believing in myself and one day my dream with turn into reality.

How much do you think you are worth?

With love,

Mo